Lifestyle Photography

Miracles Do Exist

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Two out of the last three years, I’ve worked with the family of an honest to goodness miracle. Was to be three out of the last three, but Grayson fell ill on the day of our shoot last year and had to spend the day at CHOP. When I first met her, she was not yet 2 and was hooked up to oxygen. You could only tell if she was crying by her facial expressions. She did not make noise. But she’s long been off oxygen and she’s surpassed most predictions made about her to-date I just had the opportunity to photograph Grayson’s family again and I wanted share some images (from both 2013 and 2015) and information about this amazing girl. But the story is not mine. It’s Grayson, Stephanie and Tom’s story. So I’m letting Stephanie tell it. Thank you Stephanie and Tom for bringing me into your lives. Grayson is an inspiration. A miracle.  And you both are true examples of the strength of a parent's love for their child. Miracle. That is the word I use when I describe my special little girl.

On July 21, 2012 I was not feeling well and had pain in the back of my neck. I figured I slept on the pillow wrong and caused my neck to be stiff. I remember laying down on the couch and my husband and dog were sitting next to me. Next thing I know it was 4 days later and I was waking up in a hospital bed and was told I had my baby girl who was fighting for her life.

 I had sudden eclampsia with a seizure (and to think that I had a perfect exam the week before).  Over time I have had some brief memories come back, such as remembering it being dark out and hearing choppers from a helicopter and telling a dark haired man to not hurt my baby. This was me being airlifted to Jefferson University and talking to the doctor on flight. The doctors had informed my husband and parents that if they did not deliver the baby soon she and I could both die.

 Grayson was born at 26 weeks weighing 1lb 3oz and 11 inches. She fit in our hands. She was given a 10% chance of surviving the day and has a grade III brain bleed that never resolved.  She surpassed those odds and continues to defy so many, such as being told that she would never walk.  Today all she does is run!  We had to wait 34 days before we could even hold her. She was in the NICU for 236 days (a week shy of 8 LONG months). There were several times during those months where we didn't know if she would make it but whatever challenge was in her way, she pushed it aside and survived. It's an experience I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy but one I am thankful for because it taught me so much about myself and the meaning of strength and believing in miracles and the power of prayer. She was on oxygen until she was a few days over 2 and she is still gtube fed because she will not eat solid food.

 In March 2015, a few months before she turned 3, Grayson was diagnosed with Autism. We had a feeling for a while due to the "signs" (loss of speech, stimming behaviors, lack of engagement with others).  It's been hard to swallow her diagnosis some days (as a Mom I feel robbed at times, having a preemie and now a child with autism nothing has been "normal" but then again what is normal??). Grayson is nonverbal but has so much expression with her eyes!! I feel like we are on this journey and given the incredible blessing of our daughter for a reason. We do all that we can each and every day to help Grayson.  She is a very happy little girl who loves to run, swing, and give hugs and kisses.  She has taught us so much about life and we celebrate each and every milestone and we will continue to do so. I know I will be jumping from the rooftop whenever she says mommy again!!  She is proof that miracles do exist.

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Always Room for More

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I know I’m not the only woman who feels this way, but I can only speak for myself. I believe that the busier I get as a Mom and business owner, I can convince myself that I don’t have time to invite in anything more. And sometimes that spills over into the “friend” arena. Let me explain. I am so very blessed to have lots of good friends from the many different stages of my life. I’m good at keeping touch and do my best to stay connected with the people I feel have impacted my life. But when I first stopped working full-time outside of my home and I started this business, I was so lonely. I wasn’t sure how to do the stay at home thing. I was starving for people. Even though I came back to live where I grew up, not all of my old friends and I were in the same routine.

Then came preschool with my oldest and I met a wonderful group of moms who I have come to call friends. We did playground dates in nice weather and gatherings in our homes in bad weather. Not long after, I started getting into the grade school and sports activities with both new and old friends whose kids are of similar ages. I was getting into a groove and finding my niche. In addition, my business had also started to grow and I was feeling very comfortable and confident in my new normal.

So when my son started preschool and I began meeting yet another new group of moms, my initial instincts were that I was “good.” I had enough friends and enough going on that I wasn’t sure I had time or room for more. Ridiculous, I know. Because once I started to embrace it, I can’t even imagine not having this group in my life. We were each other saviors this past school year. Boys need to keep moving. And we managed to help each other keep them doing just that. And when I had a shoot or someone else had an appointment or work, we were always able to rely on each other. We are heading in a few different directions this school year with preschool over and kindergarten starting, but I am so grateful to have gotten to know these women and their families.

And then I was lucky enough to welcome one of them into the other part of my life. Jenny asked me to do their family photos many months ago. She’s a planner. She has to be. Her husband’s schedule is crazy and his available time is minimal. I always get a little nervous when friends ask me to do their photos. Especially new friends. What if my work isn’t exactly what they wanted? What if I select the wrong location? What if the kids don’t want to work with me that day?

Per usual, the worry was all for naught. Everything turned out great and I’m so thrilled with the outcome. Jenny, thank you for not only trusting me with documenting some of your family’s time in Philadelphia, but for being such a great planner for our crew. So welcoming and warm. And thank you for making me realize how much room I always have in my life for new, great people.

No Predicting It

Put together a business plan. Isn’t that what they always tell you when starting a business? Whoever “they” are. Well, I started one but things began moving too quickly for me to complete it. What that reaffirms for me is that I could never have predicted, nor put to paper, what has transpired over the last 5+ years. The O’Shea family is no exception. Over the last four years, Amy and Sean have brought me into both their family and professional lives, time and again. From surprise Christmas gifts and numerous family sessions to professional portraits for more than 20 of Amy’s colleagues and helping Sean build his acting portfolio. They are my biggest source of referrals and two people I’m also lucky to call friends.

Our first project together was pictures of the kids as a surprise Christmas gift for Sean. Amy and I had only met in yoga so I did not know much about her family. Their youngest son, Quinn, is on the autism spectrum and Amy was understandably a little worried about how the session might go. I can assure you, her worry has since dissipated and I’ve been able to chronicle Quinn’s growth along with his twin brother and sister, Jack and Zoey. Oh and that first session had me driving over to Amy’s house late Christmas Eve with prints so the surprise would be legit. Don’t get any ideas. I don’t plan on doing that again.

What a lovely ride it has been since that first winter together. Most recently, Sean tried to return surprise Amy with some newer pictures. However, he and I both decided, the best gift would be family photos with her in them. And I’m so glad we did it. O’Shea family, I can’t thank you enough for the continued trust in me to work with your family and your colleagues. You have been a huge part of this “never could have predicted it” ride, and I so hope you will continue along with me.

Thank Heaven.

Is there really anything more that says it all like “thank heaven for little girls?” I’ve been blessed to work with a lot of beautiful children and families. And I recently got to spend separate days with two lovely young ladies. Both just about the same age and both with the kind of spunk you’d expect from girls of around 3 years old. As I told one of the moms, I love seeing spunk and chutzpah in a little girl. Although I completely understand the challenge this poses for Mom and Dad, it likely bodes well for her future. You hope that sure ofherself attitude now, translates into sure of herself later. That her strong personality will help her stand up to peer pressure and stand tall in her confidence. It’s tough enough being a young girl today. Starting out with a little bit of built-in sass can’t be a bad thing. These are things I think about as I have a little lady of my own. At the ripe old age of 7, she’s already dealt with her fair share of girls being tough on each other. It’s scary to see as a Mom because we’ve all been there and we all hope to shield them from it. We can’t. But we’ll try our hardest to prepare them to handle it with dignity and grace. To rise above it and know they’ll be better for it in the end. That empathy and understanding will make you way cooler than most anything else can.

Well, these two lucky girls have wonderful families and, in particular, Moms who I know will go to the mats for them to ensure they rise up. They are both proud and hard working and completely head over heels for their girls. So Kinley and Madeline, you keep that spark and that spunk. It will serve you well. Ask your Mom.

Retouching

If you’ve read anything from me or seen any posts, you know how much I love to do head shots. May sound boring but I truly do love it. I like understanding the person, who they are and what their work or life is all about. Only then do we create a head shot that speaks to them and their audience. One of the first questions I get asked when someone wants to price out head shots with me is does the price include retouching. It most certainly does. Not only because I genuinely enjoy it (I get all zen-like), but I think everyone’s shot deserves a little loving. Not to dramatically change the way they look or create something completely unattainable, but because even the most subtle of touches can change the way the person feels about their photo. In addition, they are paying good money to have a final piece that looks crisp, sharp and professional. I have been asked to a do a lot of things to peoples' photos. From looking thinner and younger to adding hair highlights and removing unwanted jewelry. Some things are simple, others next to impossible. And I will say as such, when necessary. The end product says as much about my style as it does the person. I have definite opinions about natural looking versus overdone. And to demonstrate that, I turned to the safest person. Myself.  About a year ago, I was working on a lighting set-up for an upcoming shoot, and because I don’t have an assistant at the ready, I was my own model. By the way, it’s definitely an experiment every photographer should try out. I learned a lot.

I figured it might be interesting to see varying levels of photo retouching on a person’s face. And this also gives you a little insight into where I stand on the subject.

The below photo is straight out of the camera. Zero retouching.

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In this next shot, I simply evened out the skin tones, smoothed out a few lines and removed any unwanted blemishes on the face. This is what I believe to be a very natural retouching. The "bags" under my eyes remain, albeit lightened up a bit. Not all wrinkles have been removed. I believe I still look like me. 

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Now, in the next photo, I have removed all signs of age. No lines, no bags, not one blemish. I'm not gonna lie, I'm kinda in love with it. Who wouldn't be a little in love with a flawless faced photo of themselves? However, it's not realistic. It's not me, in all my 38 year old, mother of two, glory. And therefore, you would never see me use it anywhere else. 

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And finally, just for sh*ts and giggles, I gave myself purple eyes and pink lips. Enjoy!

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